A FABLE
The Wind and the Sun
in which warmth wins what wind cannot
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The Wind and the Sun were arguing. They argued from high up in the sky, the way they always argued, about which of them was the stronger.

"I am the stronger," said the Wind. "I bend the trees. I stir the seas. I move whole storms across the ocean."

"I am the stronger," said the Sun. "I warm the fields. I ripen the wheat. I bring the morning."

They could have argued forever. But that morning, they saw a traveler walking on the road below. He was wearing a thick cloak.

"There," said the Wind. "Whichever of us can take the cloak off that man is the stronger. Do you agree?"

"I agree," said the Sun. "You go first."

The Wind blew.

He blew hard. He blew the dust on the road into the air. He blew the leaves off the trees. He blew at the traveler with all the strength in him.

The traveler felt the cold. He pulled his cloak more tightly around his shoulders.

The Wind blew harder. He howled. He raged. He nearly knocked the traveler off the road.

The traveler bent into the wind. He held his cloak with both hands. He did not let go. The harder the Wind blew, the tighter the traveler held on.

At last the Wind, exhausted, gave up.

"Your turn," said the Wind, very tired.

The Sun came out from behind a cloud.

The Sun did not blow. The Sun did not howl. The Sun just shone. He shone gently, on the road, on the trees, on the traveler's shoulders.

The traveler felt the warmth. He kept walking. The Sun shone a little more. The traveler began to feel warm. He kept walking. The Sun shone a little more than that.

The traveler stopped. He took off his cloak. He folded it over his arm. He went on down the road, whistling.

The Sun looked at the Wind. The Wind did not say anything. There was nothing to say.

A long time before Aesop,
Solomon wrote down something
about how to change a person's mind.
Would you like to hear it?
A WRITING OF SOLOMON

The Wind tried to take the cloak by force. The harder he blew, the tighter the traveler held on. This is what force does. It makes people hold on harder.

The Sun did not push. The Sun did not argue. The Sun just warmed the road. The traveler took the cloak off himself, because he did not need it anymore.

Solomon wrote that a soft answer turns away anger. A grievous word, a sharp answer, makes the anger bigger. The Wind learned this the hard way. The Sun knew it already.

Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is stop pushing.

Who in your life has been holding their cloak tight against your wind?
What would happen if you tried warmth instead?

PROVERBS 15:1
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"The harder the Wind blew, the tighter the traveler held on."
My husband and I argued about money for the first ten years of our marriage. He was a spender. I was a saver. I would lecture him. I would show him the bills. I would point at numbers in the checkbook. The more I lectured, the more he spent. I think he was holding on to his cloak. One day, I stopped lecturing. I made a budget for both of us, very gently, with the things he loved on it, and I asked him to look at it with me, instead of at me. He looked at it. He cried, a little. He said, "I did not know you saw me that way." We did not argue about money again, not really, for the next forty years. The Wind never got that cloak. The Sun always could. I had to learn the difference.
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, Margaret, 71, Flagstaff
there is another story about somebody
who showed up to a friend's house in the rain,
without being asked,
and helped to build a small house out of sticks. his name was Eeyore.
A FABLE BY AESOP